Alleshia
Gregson was 12 when she became pregnant with her son Lewis. She told
herself that no one would ever know of the baby’s existence. She would
keep it hidden in her wardrobe and feed it bread and milk.
What a pitifully naive vision of motherhood, drawn from her experience of looking after her dolls.
She did keep the pregnancy a secret from everyone, including her mother Cherryl and the baby’s teenage father.
Her
mother learned of her daughter’s condition just 22 minutes before the
birth, when Alleshia texted her from the family bathroom: ‘I’m pregnant
and I think it’s coming.’ Lewis, now three, was born soon afterwards in
the living room of the family home.
Unbelievably, ten months later, Alleshia became pregnant again by the same boy.
When
her second son, Braidan, was born in May 2011, 15-year-old Alleshia
had the ignominious privilege of becoming Britain’s youngest mother of
two children who were not twins.
Her story,
which came to light this week, casts a bleak reflection of a stratum of
society in which the products of broken families are blithely having
children when they are still children themselves.
Take the father of Lewis and Braidan, who was just 14 when his first son was conceived.
As
well as the two children he has with Alleshia, the boy, now 19, is
believed to have fathered three more sons by two other girls and is
expecting a sixth child by a fourth partner.
One of these other children was born just a month after Lewis.
The
teenage father’s fondness for procreating is not matched by an interest
in his children once they are born: he has met Lewis once and has not
laid eyes on Braidan.
At
Headlands School in Bridlington, East Yorkshire, Alleshia’s pregnancy
was an unusual event, but only, it seems, because other girls had
abortions when they got pregnant.
One teenager who criticised Alleshia said she’d had four terminations in the space of a year.
Given her unstable home life and upbringing, it is perhaps little wonder that Alleshia became pregnant at such a tender age.
She
and her mother moved to Bridlington from Nottingham in 2008. Cherryl,
41, has two other children, Kirsty, 22, and Ryan, 21, from a marriage
that broke up.
Alleshia’s father is a car salesman, from whom Cherryl split in 2001, when their daughter was five.
She sees her father, but over the years their relationship has been, at best, fractious.
Alleshia
and her mother have never stayed in one place for very long, and by the
time that Lewis had been born and Alleshia was carrying Braidan, they
were living with Cherryl’s latest boyfriend.
But
it was hardly a sanctuary. On the night Alleshia went into labour for
the second time, he evicted mother and daughter from his home.
Fortunately, a friend offered to put them up after Alleshia returned home from hospital following the birth.
Cherryl is single and living on benefits in a council house after being sacked from her job as a taxi operator last August.
On
top of having her council rent paid, she receives a total of £656 in
benefits every four weeks, a combination of income support, child
benefit and child tax credits.
Because
Alleshia is studying part-time at college, her sons’ nursery fees are
paid for under a government scheme to encourage people into work — a
total of £864 for four weeks’ care.
Cherryl first became a grandmother at 37 when Kirsty gave birth to a son, Jayden, now four.
All in all, the family could be star guests on the Jeremy Kyle show.
Our
interview is conducted in the living room of Cherryl’s semi-detached
council house, which is decorated in an arresting combination of black
and grey. A dartboard hangs on the wall.
Cherryl,
dressed in a vest top and trousers, and tracksuit-clad Alleshia, are
watching Jeremy Kyle — yes, really — on the widescreen TV when I arrive.
Lewis and Braidan are running around the room, creating chaos with their toys.
In
fairness to Alleshia and Cherryl, it has to be said that the boys look
happy and are clean and well-dressed — smarter, indeed, than their
mother and grandmother, the latter whom they call ‘Ninnin’.
I ask Alleshia how she managed to fall pregnant before she’d even reached her teens. Her answer is heartbreaking.
She
tells me that her children’s father is a boy from Nottingham whom she
has known since the age of five. She explains that in January 2009 she
went to stay with his family.
‘We
were good friends, but this time he made a move on me. I wasn’t
comfortable about it, I didn’t encourage it. I was so young and had no
experience with boys. I didn’t know what to do,’ she says.
‘When I realised that I was pregnant I just couldn’t believe it. I thought you had to do it lots of times to get pregnant.
‘I
was terrified of telling my mum. A friend of mine in the year above
me at school had just had a baby and her mum had thrown her out of the
house. I was worried my mum might do the same. So I kept it a secret.
‘I
went into denial. At first, I told myself over and over again that I
had a little worm inside me. I couldn’t really get my head around the
fact there was a baby inside me.
‘Then, when I was six months pregnant, I was in the bath when I saw a foot kicking from inside my stomach and it hit home.’
Two
weeks before the birth, however, the pregnancy was still barely visible
and was totally concealed by clothes. This is why, her mother says, she
had no suspicions that her young daughter was expecting.
‘I
had noticed she’d put on a bit of weight around her face,’ says
Cherryl. ‘But I put it down to her comfort-eating because she’d been
bullied after starting at a new school.’
Because
of the bullying, Cherryl had started home-schooling Alleshia, who was
at home on October 6, 2009, when she went into labour. Terrified, the
young girl dashed to the bathroom and closed the door.
‘The
pain was unbearable,’ she says. ‘My waters had broken. But I didn’t
know that happened in labour, so I thought I was peeing non-stop.
‘Then
I could see the head coming out, but I was so scared of what was
happening I tried to push it back inside me. There was blood everywhere.
‘I
became desperate; the pain got so bad. I just wanted my mum, so I
texted her: “If I tell you something, don’t go mad.” My mum replied: “Of
course not.” So I texted back: “I’m pregnant and I think it’s
coming.” ’
Alleshia
heard the phone drop and her mother running up the stairs. Her brother
called an ambulance and paramedics arrived five minutes later — just in
time to deliver Lewis, weighing a healthy 8lb, on the living room floor.
There
were tragi-comic elements to the dramatic scene, including Alleshia’s
confusion when the paramedics told her they needed to deliver the baby’s
placenta.
‘They
said they had to remove the afterbirth and I was like: “But I’ve just
given birth. There’s not another one in there, is there?”
Alleshia, Lewis and Cherryl were taken to Scarborough hospital.
‘I was holding the baby,’ says Cherryl. ‘I was in a state of shock — it was one of the worst moments of my life.
‘When I had taken in what had happened, I felt huge disappointment and wished I’d done something to stop it happening.
‘But
Alleshia’s sister had told her the facts of life when she was seven. I
hadn’t kept that from her. And she hadn’t even had a boyfriend.’
Five days after the birth, Alleshia’s breast milk came through — another bewildering moment for the 13-year-old.
‘I
ran to my mum and said I need to go to hospital, I’ve got white stuff
coming out of me. My mum explained it was just my breast milk. But I
didn’t breastfeed. At the beginning, my mum did everything.
‘I
didn’t bond with Lewis at all. When he was in his cot crying, I’d just
stare at him, laughing. My mum would say: “It’s all right, he just needs
his bottle.”
‘I felt very depressed, but the doctors said I was too young for antidepressants.’
When
he was six weeks old, Lewis was placed in the care of a state-funded
childminder five days a week from 9am to 3pm. At five months, he started
nursery.
At the time, Cherryl was working full-time as a taxi operator; Alleshia simply wasn’t up to looking after him.
She
continued to find motherhood an alien experience, but says a turning
point came when Lewis contracted whooping cough, despite having been
immunised, at three months.
At hospital he was taken to intensive care and the doctors told the family the next 24 hours would be critical.
‘I
suddenly realised how much I loved him. At that moment it was like I
had been carrying a huge weight and someone had lifted it off.
Thankfully, he recovered,’ says Alleshia.
She goes on to tell me that not long after Lewis was born, she found out that his father had another child.
‘I
know the mother quite well — she was about 14 at the time. I saw
pictures of her baby on Facebook, so I wrote to say congratulations.
‘She
wrote back congratulating me on Lewis’s birth and said: “Do you mind me
asking who his father is?” ‘When I told her, she wrote back saying:
“You’ve got to be kidding! That’s my baby’s dad.” ’ What a depressing —
and thoroughly modern — exchange.
When
Lewis was ten months old, Alleshia, who used to see her father twice a
month, went to stay with him and his wife in Nottingham for five days
during the school holidays.
He suggested taking Lewis to meet his young father, saying it would be a ‘good idea’. Alleshia had reservations, but agreed.
It
was decided she would spend a few hours at the boy’s house. But for
reasons known only to Alleshia’s father, it was four days before he came
back to collect her.
Cherryl says she thought Alleshia was at her father’s house, so was not worried.
‘I
don’t know why he didn’t come back,’ says Alleshia. ‘I suppose because
I’d grown up in Nottingham he thought I’d be all right, because I knew
lots of people.
‘This
boy and I had sex again. Before it happened, I said to him that I
didn’t want to get pregnant again and he said he would use a condom.
‘It was only afterwards that he realised he hadn’t used protection. I cried, but he just said nothing.’
And
so Alleshia’s story took another scarcely believable turn. ‘I was very
angry about it when I finally found out,’ says Cherryl.
When she returned home, Alleshia took a pregnancy test and her worst fears were confirmed: the test was positive.
‘I felt awful, just sick about it. I was dreading telling my mum that it had happened again.’
By the time she did tell Cherryl, Alleshia was 22 weeks gone.
‘I
felt heartbroken at first,’ says Cherryl. ‘It was just before the
cut‑off point for abortion, but I’ve been against abortion all my life
and to me — and Alleshia — it was unthinkable.
‘Of
course I was angry, but what could I do? I certainly wasn’t going to
disown my own daughter. But, of course, I wish she’d had her babies
later and had a life first.
‘I
didn’t expect to be looking after two toddlers at this time in my life.
But I love them. Now they’re here, you can’t wish them not to be.’
The
second time around, Alleshia’s pregnancy was very visible. She had
returned to mainstream schooling and her uniform struggled to contain
her growing bump.
She says she was teased and abused by other pupils.
‘One
girl said some horrible things, but she’d had four abortions in one
year and I thought: “At least my child will be here, alive.” ’
Alleshia
went into early labour with her second son on the evening of Sunday,
May 8, 2011. She arrived at Scarborough Hospital at 9am the next morning
and her baby was born just 20 minutes later.
Alleshia wanted to call her son Ve‑Jay, but as no one else liked the name, she settled on the slightly less unusual Braidan.
‘Things were very different with Braidan — I bonded with him straight away,’ says Alleshia.
Cherryl,
who is Lewis and Braidan’s legal guardian until Alleshia turns 18, says
she is proud of the way her daughter, who has attended several
parenting courses, has coped.
But
Alleshia leans heavily on her mother, who is often the one who will get
up in the night if the children are unwell, and it’s Cherryl who does
all the cooking.
The
children’s father has not met Braidan and hasn’t seen Lewis or Alleshia
since the visit on which she became pregnant for the second time.
‘I don’t want him to have anything to do with them,’ says Alleshia.
‘When I took Lewis to see his father, he said he’d like to see more of him.
‘But not once since that day has he expressed any interest in seeing him or Braidan.’
Despite everything, and rather miraculously, Alleshia seems to making the best of her situation.
She
managed to gain GCSEs in maths and English, and last September began a
two-year course in social care at East Riding College. She wants to be a
support worker, helping pregnant teenagers.
Alleshia
has a new boyfriend, who is 19, who she says is accepting of her
circumstances and, indeed, ‘has a word’ with any people who make unkind
comments when they are out and about.
She says she hasn’t ruled out having more children, but not until she is in her late 20s.
That is the advice she has for other girls who might risk a teenage pregnancy.
‘I would say wait. Wait until you’re in your late 20s. Have a life, get settled and be prepared.’
Sensible words. But for Alleshia, rather too late.
Source: Dailymail
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