PORN SEX Vs REAL SEX: "Normal Sex Does Not Exist" - Female Porn Star Talks About Sex From Her Perspective

In a recent interview with The Awl, adult film star Stoya explained why making such a black-and-white distinction between the real sex and porn sex worlds sort of misses the point.

When he asked her for her take on the "real sex vs. porn sex" debate, she said that our collective conception of "normal sex" leaves out a whole lot of sexual preferences that "normal" people have:

Thanks to a combination of the perceived anonymity on the Internet, and the ability to connect with people all across the globe -- oh and the search indexes -- it’s pretty obvious now that this concept of “normal sex," which is two people having sex in a handful of not really very articulately specified positions, to completion, and by completion I mean the ejaculation of a man; I think one of the serious problems with this concept is that it doesn’t take into account lesbians. Or it doesn’t take into account two people who have vaginas, who like sleeping with women, but who are not lesbians. Because so on and so forth. It’s this very concrete, narrow idea of sex -- it’s not the kind of sex that a lot of people are interested in having. And I’m sure there are people who do like their sex very, for lack of a better word, vanilla. That’s great and that’s wonderful, and they like things simple, I guess would be a good way to describe it? And that’s great for them. But there are also all of these other people...

Of course, sex in pornography is performance -- a performance meant to generate revenue and titillate customers -- so it is inevitably different from the experiences most people have in their non-commercial bedrooms. But making sweeping generalizations about what porn looks like and what "real" sex looks like may obscure the many desires and preferences people have in both worlds.